Abortion, think over

A worried woman went to her Doctor and said : ‘Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 yr. Old and I’m pregnant again. I don’t want kids So close together.’ So the doctor said: ‘Ok, and what do you want me to do?’ She said: ‘I want you to perform an abortion, and I’m counting on your Help with this.’ The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: ‘I think I have a better solution for your problem. It’s less dangerous for You too.’ She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request. Then he continued: ‘You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let’s kill the one in your arms. This way, you could Rest some before the other one is born. If we’re going to kill one of them, it Doesn’t matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you Chose the one in your arms. The lady was horrified and said: ‘No doctor! How terrible! It’s a crime to Kill a child! ‘I agree’, the doctor replied. ‘But you seemed to be ok with it, so I thought Maybe that was the best solution. The doctor smiled, realizing that he had Made his point. He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that’s Already been born and one that’s still in the womb. The crime is the same! Arun.

Ma Ke Liye..

(child says to life from her mothers womb, when she is going for abortion.)

“Khushi ne Li Ruksat humse,
Gum ne Anne se Mana kar diya,
Ay Zindagi hamne tera kya Bigara,
Jo Apnane se Mana kar diya”

Kids Health

Physical abuse at a young age is linked to aggression later in childhood, but little is known about the impact of neglect.

Now a research team has found that neglect in the first two years of life may be a more important predictor of aggression before age eight than physical abuse or neglect later in childhood.

The team, which included physicians from the medical faculties of the University of North Carolina and the University of Maryland, examined records of 1,318 children culled from local child protection agencies. All had come to the attention of authorities for suspected or actual abuse or neglect, which the law defines as a failure to provide food, clothing, shelter or adequate supervision.

The children’s primary caregivers were interviewed when the children were four, six and eight, and asked whether the youths displayed signs of aggression, such as destroying property or attacking or threatening others.

Their answers were analysed and compared with data about aggressive behaviour from a general population of children who did not have histories of abuse or neglect.

Analysis revealed that neglect before age two was a stronger predictor of later aggression than physical abuse in the first two years or neglect later in childhood.

Though child abuse gets more attention in the media, neglect is more common, “has gone largely unstudied” and appears to be an important contributor to youth violence, researchers say.

“Neglect may have profound and long-lasting effects on the child, particularly if it occurs early in the child’s development,” they conclude.

The study, which appears in the April issue of Pediatrics, was funded by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.

Does your teenager ‘drive’ you crazy?

Inculcate safe and responsible driving skills in your youngster.
Driving is serious business

Much before parents handover the car keys to their adolescent sons or daughters, they need to teach safe driving to their young ones. Parents need to address themselves to the driving skills of their children, mainly because rash driving is not a habit one can overlook. Like smoking, drinking and other habits that worry parents, unsafe and rash driving also needs parental attention, that too before it is too late.
Did you know? 

Unsafe driving by irresponsible teenagers is a menace in all countries of the world. It is found that four out of every ten teen deaths are due to driving accidents. Research shows that teens meet with accidents after they jampack their vehicles with friends. The risk of an accident is reduced if the young one drives alone, that too in the daytime. Teens are pre-disposed to taking risks and exhibiting reckless driving. Statistics show that teens are the most likely to speed a vehicle. And the combination of loud music, friends and recklessness proves fatal while driving. Parents therefore must discourage their youngsters from late night driving.
Limit your child’s time behind the wheel

While a parent must discourage late night driving, even morning driving must be fixed within parameters. For instance, never let the youngster drive after taking any intoxicating drink. Make it a rule, a value to be cherished all throughout life. Never ever listen to your teenager’s heroic tales of driving in tricky situations. If the youngster is inexperienced, do not allow him or her to drive for long distances. 
For example, if your son doesn’t want to wear a helmet, in order to keep his hairstyle intact, be firm and lay down ground rules in advance. Take away the motorbike if he insists on not wearing the safety helmet. 
Be a role model

Parents should also be responsible while driving. They should make sure they wear their seat belts, never drink while driving, never drive over the speed limit, never cut lanes and treat traffic rules lightly. If parents set the right precedent, children would be more prone to driving responsibly when they take to the wheel.
License should never be fake

Some parents even encourage their children to start driving early. They don’t mind if their teenager fakes his or her date of birth on a driving license, in order to start driving a year before the legally permissible age. Never allow such irresponsible and illegal behavior. For it is the question of your teenager’s life and of course many other lives he or she might play with. 

Teaching Kids To Dress Themselves

eaching your preschooler to dress himself can be extremely frustrating. However, it doesn’t have to be. Children between the ages of 4 and 5 years old can quickly learn how to dress themselves without too much frustration. There are some simple steps that should be followed so that your preschooler can effectively learn to dress themselves.Generally mornings can be a time that is very chaotic and rushed. Most times, it is much easier to simply dress your preschooler, rather than allowing them the extra time to dress themselves. However, by learning to dress and undress them, they are not only learning independence, they are also working on improving their logical thinking and motor skills.

If you are at the point where you want to allow your child to learn to dress himself, you may want to allow for extra time. Therefore, if your mornings are generally a chaotic time, consider getting up a bit earlier. This will give both you and your preschooler that extra time needed, to allow him to dress himself, without the feeling of being rushed. It is important that you are there to assist your little one with getting dressed, without taking over and doing it for him.
When your little one is learning to dress himself, it is important that you keep in mind that it doesn’t matter what order he does it in. If he wants to put his pants on before he puts his socks on, it is ok.
In order for your child to master the skills involved in dressing himself, he will need the encouragement and opportunity to practice by himself. The more you allow him to dress himself and practice this skill, the better he will become.

Whether your little one is enthusiastic to take charge or simply uninterested, there are a variety of things you can do to make things simpler. Begin by purchasing simple clothing. Clothes such as overalls and pants with snaps, zippers and buttons can be set aside for special occasions. Pants with elastic waistbands and loose T-shirts are the best way to go in the beginning. If you have a daughter, consider purchasing slip on dresses with larger armholes or skirts with elastic waistbands. When purchasing socks, consider purchasing ones with fitted heels, this way, your child won’t have to try and figure out which way the sock goes on.

When your child is first learning to dress by themselves, consider purchasing clothes that are a size bigger. This is especially true if your little one is between sizes. You may want to let your little one practice with your socks, in order to get the hang of it. The larger the clothes, the easier it is for kids to get them on and off without assistance.
In order to lessen the stress of dressing routine, let your little one pick out what they want to wear. Preschoolers begin developing their own taste and personality and therefore will enjoy picking out their own clothes. Although your preschooler may come up with some extremely crazy combinations, he will quickly learn to associate the fun of picking out his own clothes with the pure satisfaction of putting them on.

One way of helping your preschooler pick out his own clothes, without it getting out of hand is to lay out two coordinating outfits. This way, he can mix and match between the different pieces, yet still feel like he made the final decision in what he chose to wear. Young children are often drawn to brightly colored clothes. This is generally acceptable, as long as the colors coordinate with one other. Therefore, pick outfits out that are easily interchangeable so that your preschooler will have an easier time attempting to match their clothes, while still displaying their own fashion sense.

Another struggling point for many preschoolers is learning to tie their own shoes. If possible, avoid the shoes with Velcro, so that your little one will learn how to tie his own shoes. This can be a very frustrating process for both parent and child. Therefore, be willing to try this in small steps. Do not overwhelm yourself or your preschooler.
There are a few tricks that will help your little one to learn to tie their shoes a lot easier. One of the most common tricks for teaching a preschooler to tie his shoes is the bunny ears method. Demonstrate to your child how to make the laces resemble “bunny ears”. Next, he will need to try and secure a knot through the bunny’s head. Make an X by crossing the bunny’s ears over. Then, pull one ear through the underside of the X and pull tightly. This example will help your child learn to ties his shoes on his own.

Another method is to pick up a book at your local library or book store on learning to tie shoes. There are books that have a shoe with laces so that your preschooler can practice learning to tie. The more he practices, the better and more efficient he will become. There are also some toys that can come with shoe strings so that your little one can learn to tie.

One of the most important things you need to remember when teaching your preschooler to dress himself and tie his own shoes is patience. Your little one will get the hang of this in his own time. Don’t push him into doing it your time. Before you know it, your child will be dressing himself without any assistance.

Choosing Your Baby’s Name

There is never a ‘too early’ date to choose a baby’s name. Although choosing a baby’s name is a husband and wife thing to do, in my case, I already have a name in mind for my first born baby boy. The only thing for me to do then when my wife got pregnant was to convince her to use that name.

What is the best way to choose your baby’s name? Is there a rule? A guide perhaps? Is there a trend or is it just something that you can pick this instant?

For my second baby (coming real soon!), we already have a name prepared, well, at least I have. My wife still have some suggestions of her own. Important thing is we agree on it.

Personally, here are some things to consider when naming your precious baby.

Popular Names

There are some parents who like names that are popular and easy to remember. Although there are good, popular names, we have to consider that these names don’t stay popular forever.

Also, if you did choose a popular name, chances are you are not the only one who picked that name and it and your child could have a name that everyone else has.

Celebrity Names

This one I’m guilty of. Yes, i must admit that my first born was named after a famous fiction writer and a TV/comedy actor. Good thing about picking a name from celebrities is that most of them has common enough names that does not get worn out over time. A name Stephen will always be Stephen and will always remain a good choice for a name. Right?

Nicknames

When choosing a name, you can also consider the nicknames that comes along with the name. You may plan on your child never being called by a nickname, but you can’t always prevent this from happening.

You may want others to use your child’s full name (like Joseph), but there will always be someone who calls him by a pet name, (Joe or Joey).

If you really don’t like your child to be called by a name other than his real name, consider giving him a name that has no or are hard to associate a nickname. Examples are Jude, Adam, Blake, Carl or Ross.
Unique Names

What are these unique names? Well, that will definitely depends on you creativity. You could coined in a new name from your name and your wife’s. You could research a named from mythology or some old stories. You could use weather names or nature (summer, river, forest). It really depends on you and your partner’s creativity.

The danger of using a unique name, however, especially if it is very unusual, is that while it may make your child stand out from the crowd, he may stand out too much and can lead to teasing. Also,some unique names can be difficult to spell, so watch out for that.

And finally,

Find a name that both of you like and feel positive about. The most important thing is you and your partner agree on it.

A readers view

Motherhood! The most rewarding and satisfactory period in any woman’s life. You are ready to sacrifice anything for your baby. However as time skips away you may grow jealous over the beautiful mother in the bath soap advertisement. You may feel that your beauty has vanished with the arrival of baby and you have no time to rejuvenate it. Here are some easy beauty care tips that will make you as beautiful in your younger days within a short period.

The major skin problem faced by many new mothers is stretch marks. Moisturizers or skin-soothing creams with zinc oxide or titanium oxide are great to treat dry skin and avoid uncomfortable itching where your skin is stretching.

The stretch marks can be reduced by regular massage with natural oils. Mothers do not have to waste too much time for this oil massage every day. They can apply the oil before half an hour before their bath and play with their baby for some time. The oil may have worked their charm within this half an hour.

Mothers may loose the charm of their face with wrinkles,pigmentation around the eyes and acne. Mothers can reduce the dark circles under the eye by placing a peel of cucumber, potato or cotton dipped in rose water. They do not have to search for more time for this eye care. Even 5-10 minutes before the sleep, they can apply this eye care method.

The wrinkles on the mothers’ face can be reduced with some easy face lifting exercises. Believe me your baby will find these exercises amusing!

Acne on mothers should be treated with the advice of a dermatologist. However mothers can try some homemade beauty treatments by washing your face with raw milk and maintaining a healthy diet to reduce acne.

Hair care is a major concern for many new mothers. Due to the hormonal changes hair may start to fall more than usual. However beauty experts say that there is no need to worry about this hair loss. Your hair will grow to the natural style after the initial maternity blues. Mothers can also keep their hair in style with the suitable hair cuts. However they must be careful that hair highlights, hair paintings, and chemicals to shine their hair do not touch their scalp or skin.

Most mothers are concerned about the lose of their body shape after maternity. Regular exercises and the practice of yoga can easily bring back the mother’s body shape into normality. The sagging breasts can be take back to the normal shape by regular breast massage. The sore and cracked nipples can easily be healed with prescribed tablets and hypoallergenic creams.

Keep your beauty ablaze with these easy beauty tips. Once your children grow up, let them be proud of your beauty.

Watch what you say; Little ears are always listening!

An article which i got from somewhere, its really true and interesting.

When my oldest daughter was younger I struggled with potty mouth (me, not her). I substituted “Friggin”, or “Freakin’ ” for the well known street vernacular, and thought I had won the battle.

I didn’t realize how much I swore, or “fake swore”, until I took my daughter and her half-brother out for lunch one day. He was about 3 years old at that time. I took them to one of my favorite restaurants that served the best Chicken Fried Steak.

On our way to the restaurant I explained to the kids what we would be eating. The boy was perplexing me by the way he seemed worried about what we were having for lunch. I blew off the situation as a kid just being a picky eater.

After we ordered, and the waitress brought out our food, I watched as he looked at the meat and continuously poked, and flipped it over. I asked him what was wrong.

BOY: “Mike, Where are the eyes?”

ME: “What eyes?”

BOY: “The snake’s eyes!”

ME: “Why would there be snake eyes in your food?”

BOY: “Well you said we were having Freakin’ Fried Snakes!”

As I tried desperately to clear the stinging sensation of Coca-Cola in my nasal passages the trepidation I sensed in the car was made abundantly clear in that one instant. I also realized that I needed to do something about my language, specially around kids.

YOUNG MOTHERS, Rude and Arrogant!!!!!

From A conversation between me and one of my friend in Chennai. 

The whole thing is based on her point of view.

I believe in the 90/10 rule. That is, 90% of the time, we use 10% of our brains. 90% of the population own 10 % of the resources. You get the story line.

Ok, why is it that a whole battalion of young  Indian mothers are in a rush these days? Rude, unsatisfied and slave masters? Of course there is the 10% that sit and talk to their kids, and really parent their offsprings. But I seem to be coming across the 90% more often.

Summer-time and I’ve enrolled the kids in some cool and easy workshops.

Since I have kids ranging from 20 to 7, I meet mothers spanning 2 or 3 generations. However, we Indian mothers come across the board as consistently rough with our kids.

Yesterday, I’m at this Tennis place with my youngest in practice. So, we mothers hang outside the court under the trees. Here, we are all chatting away, and a young person (YES, THE KID IS A HUMAN BEING!!!) aged 5 or 6, is playing in the sand right behind us.

Scene I

Stopitmama yelps, “Neha, stop it”. Neha rolls her eyes. Neha blissfully continues doing what she apparently seems to do best: Ignoring Mama. Mother goes on to berate the kid. Not that Neha cared a breath.

As I turn around, I notice that the child has scooped some dirt into tiny mounds and stuck an assortment of twigs, fresh and dry leaves and whatever else she could find to adorn her creation. I may be more imaginative than others (with 4 kids, that’s the only way to survive), but to any layperson, it was definitely something worth admiring. A budding architect is what I announced. I’m sure the others areed. Along Frank Llyod, so usonian and Zaha Hadid, so contemporary.

Just using the materials that were readily available. She didn’t have to bribe anyone. No hypocricy. No imported items. No sweat. No cheating, lying, nothing. Just plain fun.

“Stop it, Neha, your clothes are getting dirty”. It wasn’t like the kid was wearing Channel or Givenchy or even that the outfit was white or starched. The kid was in some tatty jeans. Perfect play clothes.

So, what is Stopitmama teaching Neha here. Obviously, the kid could care a hoot. Well, it certainly seemed a resignation of the parental authority. And it was apparent that The Mother has anger-management issues. Losing tempers over non-issues - not too cool on a hot hot hot Chennai day. (A non-Chennaite Mother, for you cross-referencers).

Way-to-go-mama is in the court with her kid. Given half a chance, she would yank her kid’s racquet to do the needful. “Way to go, Shweta!”. Shweta rolls her eyes. She has not even hit one ball yet.

Kids instinctively know where they stand. They know when we are overdoing it, or underdoing it for that matter. Kids know.

Scene III

Perfect-Mom nags and wags her tongue at every given oppurtunity to create a neurotic adult. It’s her mission in life to spawn psychosis. The kid hits 10 out of 10 balls. Perfect-Mom is upset. “Come on, Sunder, you could do better.” Sunder rolls his eyes.

I try not to be Perfect Mama. I don’t expect perfection and have strictly told my children not to expect me to be perfect. My excuse: Only God is Perfect.

Mine announces, “It was a 6 today”. That’s the end of it. Well, she loves marking her scores. From her previous play. So, today on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, she’s a 6.

Epilogue

Oh, that reminds me, her sweet (To Candyland) story, all 15 lines of it, appeared in the paper today (Young World, Friday Review, The Hindu). I didn’t even know she had sent it in. Apparently, she’d asked my older kid to send it in 2 weeks ago. It all makes sense now, why she was wolfing down the papers lately. Much thanks to the paper-people…

I thank my friend for this lovely article, hope you have something to reply.

My Mom

“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.”

 

 

My Mom

“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”

“I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.”

“Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.”

 

My Daddy

“How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child’s board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted.”

“Father in Heaven! When the thought of thee wakes in our hearts, let it not awaken like a frightened bird that flies about in dismay, but like a child waking from its sleep with a heavenly smile.”

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